97. Living Unoffendable

Scripture tells us offenses will take place. Whether it’s an offense with a family member, friend or God, they will happen. But what will we do with them? How will we respond? In this episode I share what scripture says on the topic of offense and encourage you to live your life unoffended!

Show Notes:

Bible Verses:

Luke 17:1 “Then he said to his disciples, “It is impossible that no offense should come, but woe to him through whom they do come!” NKJV

Luke 17:1 “Jesus said to his disciples: “Things that cause people to stumble are bound to come, but woe to anyone through whom they come.” NIV

Luke 17:1 “One day Jesus taught his disciples: “Betrayals are inevitable, but great devastation will come to the one guilty of betraying others.” TPT

Matthew 11:6 “Blessed is the one who is not offended by me.” NKJV

Matthew 11:6 “The blessing of heaven comes upon those who never lose their faith in me – no matter what happens!” TPT

Matthew 11:3 “Are you the one who was to come, or should we expect someone else?” NIV

Matthew 11:5 “The blind receive sight, the lame walk, those who have leprosy are cleansed, the deaf hear, the dead are raised, and the good news is proclaimed to the poor.” NIV

Proverbs 19:11 “An understanding person demonstrates patience, for mercy means holding your tongue. When you are insulted, be quick to forgive and forget it, for you are virtuous when you overlook an offense.” TPT

Proverbs 19:11 “Good sense makes one slow to anger, and it is his glory to overlook an offense.” ESV

Proverbs 12:16 “If you shrug off an insult and refuse to take offense, you demonstrate discretion indeed. But the fool has a short fuse and will immediately let you know when he’s offended.” TPT

1 Corinthians 13:5 “Love is not easily irritated or quick to take offense.”

Topics Discussed

What Is an Offense?

An offense is defined as ‘an annoyance or resentment brought about by a perceived insult to or disregard for oneself or one’s standards or principles’.
We are all people who have become offended.
We can be quick as believers to jump to an offensive state.
When you enter and offensive start, you leave the spirit realm. It hinders our ability to walk with the Spirit.
The enemy loves when offenses take place because they separate us from the spirit realm and from one another.

Why Do Offenses Take Place?

There are so many things that cause us to become offended including putting expectations on other people.
The more you expect the greater the potential offense will be.
Expectations need to be communicated or, in some areas, they need to be removed.
Offenses can take place because we are prideful or selfish.
Offenses can take place because we don’t want to admit we are wrong.
Offenses take place because we are operating in an orphan spirit, we don’t know our place in the kingdom.

How Will We Respond When Offenses Take Place?

We are all responsible for ourselves. We can’t control what anyone around us does.
I can’t control those who hurt me and offend me, but what I can control is how I am going to respond in those moments.
Offenses determine where you are spiritually and it reveals the condition of your heart.
The more mature you are in Christ and have a heart like his, the more likely you are to follow the leading of the Spirit of God, and the less offended you will become.
When an offense tries to come in, instead of responding with emotions, you will be able to respond with grace and love.
God has called us all to live a life of forgiveness and living unoffended.

Becoming Offended with God

When John doubted him, Jesus pointed to the evidence of his miracles.
Jesus did miracles and people became offended. Matthew 11:6
When you choose to live unoffended, you are called blessed.
When you live offended you are partnering up with the enemy.

Living Unoffended

To live a life unoffended, you are going to have to be rooted in God’s love.
If we have not received loved from the Father, we will never be able to love those around us.
Ask the Lord if there is anyone in your life that you have become offended with and ask Him to show you who it is.
Refuse to partner up with the enemies plans to have you live an offended life.
Declare over yourself that you will be a man/woman who is unoffended.
I will live unoffended.
I will choose to forgive those who hurt me.

Powerful Quotes:

“When you enter an offensive state, you enter the natural realm, leaving the spiritual realm, which will hinder you from walking in the Spirit.” – Caroline

“When you are walking in offenses and unforgiveness, you can’t be walking in love and unity.” – Caroline

“The more you expect, the greater the potential offense.” – Caroline

“The best way to live unoffended is to deny yourself, take up your cross and follow Jesus fully.” – Caroline

“Hurting people, hurt people. You can’t give away what you don’t have.” – Caroline

“Offenses determine where you are spiritually and reveal the condition of your heart.” – Caroline

“The more mature you are in Christ and have a heart like his, the more likely you are to follow the leading of the Spirit of God, and the less offended you will become.” – Caroline

“When an offense tries to come in, instead of responding with emotions, you will be able to respond with grace and love.” – Caroline

“God has called us all to live a life of forgiveness and living unoffended.” – Caroline

“When you live offended you are partnering up with the enemy.” – Caroline

Resources:

Get Over It by Robert Madu